Nolan Eason

At 1:03AM on Friday, March 30, 2012 my first child was born - a son. We named him Nolan Eason. 21" long, 5lb 3oz. He was beautiful and perfect in every way, except that he was stillborn. As we searched for answers to his untimely death, we also searched for comfort. This blog was created as a way of working through my sorrow by trying to find something beautiful in the world each day. Hopefully, along the way it will help others to heal as well.
Showing posts with label army wives. Show all posts
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Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Flat Tire


Marshall got up before 6am to shower and get ready for work. After a very sleepless night in the hotel room, battling the air conditioner to get a comfortable temperature, I was anxious to get back to sleep once he left. And sleep I finally did, until 9:30am. It was later than I had intended to sleep in, but then again I don't really have a time table these days. After showering and getting dressed, I took JoJo out and then packed up some stuff to put in the car before heading to the set of Army Wives.

One of the actors, Sterling, was working this morning and Marshall wanted me to come out to see him since he asks Marshall all the time how I am doing. The set was much farther away than I had thought as it took me nearly 45 minutes to make it out there. But, once out there it was truly beautiful. They were filming at this plantation called Middleton Place. When I arrived out there they were filming on a bridge by a lake. It turned out to be a beautiful day with the high reaching nearly 80 degrees. Can you believe it is almost Christmas?! It sure didn't feel like December out here today. I saw Sterling and he gave me a big hug and then asked if he could touch my belly. He told me how happy he was and how much he's been praying for us and this baby. That was the sentiment I got from a bunch of people on set as well.

I hung around the set for a good bit since it was such a nice day outside and I wanted to make sure I said hello to everyone Marshall wanted me to. There were a lot of new faces on the Army Wives set this year, but I knew most of them from Wilmington. Eventually, I left as I still had some things I wanted to do in Charleston before I left to head back to Wilmington.




Unfortunately, I was only about 5 miles away from set when all those plans went right out the window with my flat tire. So I pulled into the first side road I could find and called AAA to come help me. Nearly 45 minutes later, they arrived to put my spare on for me and found the culprit of the flat tire - a nail! Well, there was certainly no way I was driving 3 hours on my spare tire home so I now had to find a new tire or see if the flat could be patched before I could head home. So, I drove back the 45 minutes to the hotel and picked up JoJo and we headed out to find a tire store. A few miles from the hotel I happened upon a Firestone and decided that was as good a place as any. A little over an hour later they had me a new tire put on as the flat was not able to be patched, of course. Now it was nearly 4pm and I was supposed to be home by 8pm for dinner and the X Factor finale with the girls. And I still hadn't had any lunch! Thank goodness I had those cookies in my car to munch on while I waited for the AAA guy to arrive.

On the way out of town, I stopped and grabbed a salad to go then called Marshall's parents to let them know I wouldn't be able to stop back by before I left. As it would happen, Robi and Marshall's mom had yet to make it back from Robi's physical therapy appointment so I didn't feel as bad for not making it back by to say goodbye. I finally got out of Charleston around 4:30pm to head home to Wilmington. Since Susan didn't mind JoJo coming over for X Factor night, I didn't bother going home first but just stopped in Leland at Susan's house when I rolled into town around 7:15pm. Mary Beth and her daughter Abby were already over there as well as Kelly. The only person missing was Shea who wouldn't be over until nearly 8pm when she dropped off her client. Abby loved JoJo and snuggled with her on the floor as we waited for dinner to be ready. Susan cooked a meal she had found on Pinterest - pot roast sliders, asparagus and homemade mac and cheese. It was all delicious and I don't even like asparagus but for some reason when Susan makes it I always like it.

Susan gave me a Christmas gift for the baby that was a box full of baby clothes and a teething toy. There was a really cute Carolina blue argyll pajama outfit and an cute Babybook onesie (think Facebook profile, but for a baby). It was very sweet of her and I have to admit it was fun getting some new things for the new baby. Several of my friends have been asking me if I wanted to do a baby shower and I've been pretty conflicted about it. I guess I originally thought that since we were having another boy and just had baby showers less than a year ago there was really no point. I mean, yes there are still things we need to get, but I didn't think anyone would want to come to another shower for us since we are having another boy. But I have gotten a few things for the new baby from various people and I have to say it has made me feel more normal - or at least as normal as I can feel during this pregnancy.

So maybe I will let them do like a baby celebration at least. Something where we can all get together and eat some cake and celebrate this baby. Not necessarily something that requires presents but something that will allow me to be excited and give this baby the same sort of excitement and party as Nolan was given. I know Marshall has been anti getting anything for the baby, but really is that going to make it any easier if we end up losing him? No, the answer is no. We already have a room full of baby stuff, what's one or two more things for a baby? My feeling is that I'm already attached to this baby. Shower or no shower. I am still going to be devastated if things go wrong this time. Perhaps even more devastated, if that is even possible.

After dinner, Mary Beth and Abby left so Susan let her dog Sailor out since she no longer had to worry about him slobbering on Abby's school uniform. Sailor is a black lab and while he is so sweet, he is so slobbery! We had to keep putting him and JoJo in time out from each other though because they kept wanting to play in the living room and Sailor's tail was knocking the tree so hard we were afraid he was going to break something. It was a great X Factor finale and I have to say, it could easily be anybody's win tomorrow night. It will be interesting to see what the outcome is. As soon as the show was over I grabbed my stuff, JoJo and the buckeyes Susan had just made for me and headed home. I was pretty tired from the excitement of the day and the drive and knew if I didn't get home soon, JoJo and I would be spending the night with Susan.

Sunday, December 9, 2012

Marshall leaves for Army Wives

Marshall woke up at 6:15 to get packed up and ready to leave for Charlotte. I ended up getting up with him and got our neices' gifts and a goodie bag of cookies for Marshall packed up and ready for him to take. We chatted as he drank coffee and waited on JT to show up. JT arrived around 7:30 and he and Marshall headed out for Charlotte.

I laid down on the couch after he left, turned on the TV and fell asleep. I awoke again around 10am and just before Marshall called to tell me he was almost in Charlotte. Today he and JT would work with Steve in Charlotte and then spend the night with my cousin Jay before heading down to Charleston tomorrow morning to officially start prep on Army Wives. Hopefully, this will be the last time Marshall has to take an extra day away from his family to do work he doesn't get paid for. It's the down side of him working with a mixer that doesn't live in Wilmington. Otherwise, he could just go over to his house for a few hours today and come back home and spend the evening here with me.

Eventually, I got motivated to get up and get showered and I headed over to BWW in MJ to meet Susan, Stacey and Mike to watch football. The Panthers actually won! They beat Atlanta 30-20. Unfortunately, for Marshall I don't think he was able to see any of the game since he was working but I kept him informed via text messages the best I could. I indulged a bit at lunch and had chocolate cake and ice cream.

I left and headed home to spend the rest of the day with JoJo. I turned on the fireplace and we lounged around the rest of the day enjoying the quiet house.

Monday, May 28, 2012

Bloody Mary

It's always a bittersweet end to any long weekend - the thought of going back to work. It is especially difficult when that work takes you away from your home and the ones you love. Such is the case with Marshall right now. Today he had to leave to go back to Charleston, SC to work on Army Wives. In order to not spend the afternoon alone, I headed over to Susan and Stacey's pool to hang out with them and Shea. Sometimes you just need your girl friends and today was one of those days. Thankfully for me, I have amazing girl friends that are always there no matter what. I even had the opportunity to see Shea's mom, sister and nephews for a bit. As with most community pools, there were tons of kids and I worried at first if it was going to bother me. But, a very strong Bloody Mary later and that worry was long gone. Note to self, Stacey makes very strong Bloody Mary's so don't drink them if you are planning on driving anywhere any time soon. Fortunately for me, I was not.










I have never been much of a drinker, mostly because I had very little tolerance for alcohol. A couple of strong drinks in college and I was DRUNK. I do enjoy the occasional buzz but have learned that one glass of wine or one strong Bloody Mary is about my limit. Alcohol can often be a source of solace for people in situations like mine. While my husband doesn't drink at all and I drink very little, it obviously has not been an avenue that either of us have considered. Although, I must admit I have found myself drinking on more occasions than I probably would otherwise even if my drinking is limited to one drink. Alcohol is also something I did not partake in at all while pregnant. I know some people do and some think a glass of wine is okay but I am not one of those people. I believe that if a glass of wine can give me a good buzz, what in the world will it do to my 5lb baby? Since I'm sure Marshall and I will try to have another baby soon, I kind of feel like taking more opportunities to partake in drinking a glass of wine now since I might have to soon give it up again for another 9 months. It's like caffeine in that regard. I have been drinking way more coffee than I ever normally would. I'm a one cup of coffee type of girl, but when I was pregnant I also gave up all caffeine. I occasionally drank a decaf cup of coffee but it just wasn't the same so I eventually said why bother. And so today I not only indulged in a full afternoon of fun, sun, bloody marys and girl time, I capped it off with a cup of coffee. Perhaps that's why I can't seem to go to sleep before 3 am?

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