Day 6: Books

Capture Your Grief Day 6: Books

When Nolan passed away a few people sent us books on grieving, losing a child, how to cope, etc. At first I didn't have an interest, much less the focus to read any of them. What I did do immediately was begin writing. I started a blog entitled Something Beautiful. I focused on not only pouring out all the crazy, angry, confused and hurt thoughts I was having but also tried to focus on something I found beautiful that day - a sunset, a thoughtful message, a quiet moment during the storm. 

It wasn't until some time later that I started to read the books sent to me. While they were nice and thought provoking, none really spoke to me. I just couldn't really relate to them as they were discussing different types of loss and grief than what I was dealing with. So I continued to blog and in doing so I started receiving messages. Messages from friends, messages from friends of friends, and then messages from complete strangers. One way or another they caught a piece of my story, or stumbled across the entire blog and began to read it from start to finish and it spoke to them. I was amazed that what I was going through touched people that had never even experienced such a loss. I was even more amazed that women all across the country were writing me and expressing how grateful they were for my words and how it helped them through their own grieving process for they too had lost a child. 

Although I only write intermittently on my blog now, I still continue to receive messages from women who find peace and comfort in my writing. Clearly, for some solace does come in the form of books or reading someone else's experience. For me, the solace was the writing process and the beautiful messages I received from women I was helping. I've been told countless times I need to write a book and perhaps they are all right, although I feel as though I already have. 

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